A Quick Guide to Deep Throat

Written by on 08/09/2013 in Sex for Couples

Deep Throat movie postMen, being the strange creatures that they are, often rate deep-throat oral to be a major fantasy of theirs, in spite of the fact that the most sensitive part of their penis is the glans. Nevertheless, watching their whole willy disappear into their girlfriend’s mouth remains in most men’s top ten turn-ons.

If you know your porn, and chances are even if not, then you will know that Deep Throat is a famous and highly controversial film from the seventies. One of the first mainstream pornographic films, Deep Throat starred Linda Lovelace as a woman unable to achieve orgasm until she discovered her clitoris was located in her throat. Cue lots of deep-throating scenes with Linda faking multiple orgasms. The film has gained a cult following due to its humorous scenes and tongue-in-cheek feel–clips of fireworks going off and bells ringing during Ms Lovelace’s orgasms, for example–and the fact that it was one of the first adult movies to feature decent dialogue and some semblance of a plot.

Unfortunately for us real women, who have our clitorises in the usual place, finding a woman who can deep throat is the Holy Grail for a lot of men. Forgive me for generalizing, but I think it’s pretty safe to say that even a standard blow job is up there at the top of the list of favorite treats for most guys. I covered basic blow job techniques in this column last spring, so if you’ve mastered those and fancy adding a neat little trick to your sex-goddess repertoire, here’s a quick guide.

Check out the angle. If he has a prominent upward curve, it won’t go down your throat comfortably unless you’re in a reverse position such as 69.

Use plenty of lube if your mouth has a tendency to go dry when you’re giving oral. I wouldn’t recommend flavored lubes for this though, as the often sickly sweet smells and tastes will make you more likely to heave.

Take it slowly, and stop when you feel like it’s too much. Pause for a few moments before going for a little bit more. It will get easier each time.

Nature cleverly designed the gag reflex to stop you putting things down your throat that aren’t meant to be there. Including, funnily enough, penises. This reflex is largely a question of mind over matter, however, and is more sensitive in some women than others. It can also be trained. Go slowly and you can relax this reflex. If you’re really dedicated, you can practice for a few minutes each day with your fingers or the back of a spoon. A lot of porn actresses–for whom deep throat is often part of the job description–practice with sex toys. As I said, this is only if you’re really dedicated.

A lot of men actually find the sight and sound of their woman gagging on their bits a turn-on. Slightly gross, I know, but if you aren’t too offended by this it can make things a lot easier. If you find you tend to gag just slightly when attempting to deep throat him, just let it happen and carry on, as once it’s out of the way it will most likely be easier.

Once you’ve got as much of him in your mouth as you can, start moving your mouth up and down–while sucking gently–if you can. The feel of the head of his penis going in and out of your throat can be an intense one for him. Once you become adept, try making a swallowing motion as you do this to increase the tight feelings.

If you have a very sensitive gag reflex or he is very wide, deep throat may just not be possible for the two of you. The most sensitive part of his penis is the head anyway, so just concentrate on your more general oral skills and he’s hardly likely to complain. There are a couple of ways you can cheat:

  • Add your hand. Wrap your hand around the bottom of his shaft and keep it there while you “deep throat” the rest of him. The sensation is remarkably similar, and certainly makes things a lot easier for you.
  • A position which makes taking him deeper into your mouth surprisingly easy is for you to lie on your back on the bed/couch/table/whatever, with your head slightly off the edge, and open your mouth. This presents your mouth and throat in one long line and disables the gag reflex somewhat. He stands behind you and thrusts in and out of your mouth. As it involves him being in control of the movement, make sure you trust him not to get carried away, and agree on a safe sign you will use if you need him to stop. I say “sign” because you can’t safe-word with your mouth full! Me and the hubby use a tapping technique on his thigh: one firm tap for “Slow down” and two for “Stop right now!”

Deep throat can be an enjoyable and highly erotic added extra. Given that the head of the penis is actually the most sensitive area for the majority of men, the appeal of deep throat is often the “naughtiness” of it and the visual appeal of watching you virtually swallow his cock. For this reason, dodgy seventies skin flicks aside, deep throat remains a popular scene in professional and amateur porn alike. Give it a whirl, and he’ll be so grateful, he’ll be picking up his socks for a month! Or, even better, returning the favor with lots of prolonged oral for you.


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