How to Give a Perfect Blow Job

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Men love blow jobs. I’m sure that’s no surprise to you, but a lot of men will often actually take a good blowjob over intercourse. They don’t have to do any work, for one thing. And your mouth is warm and wet and feels just as good if not better than your–or his–hand, and for some men even your most intimate bits. Don’t take this personally, because no matter how many pelvic floor exercises you do you can’t make your vagina feel like a mouth.

Read on for my specific tips on giving a perfect blow job.

Scarlett Ryan on how to give a perfect blow jobIn adult movies, the oral scenes are usually the ones that get put on repeat, and it’s generally accepted by actors and directors alike that whereas you don’t have to have certain positions or scenarios in every film, a blowjob scene is a must.

A lot of women feel a bit squeamish about performing oral, or worry they aren’t doing it right or they’ll catch his willy on their teeth. But worry not. As with hand stimulation, giving a guy oral is pretty straightforward. And the same two basic rules apply: keep it firm and wet. The latter is fairly easy as he’s in your mouth, but you might find it gets dry if you’re sucking hard–and as you will see, you should be–so grab yourself a flavored lube or simply add a bit of saliva. It might sound gross, but guys tend to love it if you just spit on it, and you can see this a lot in porn. (It’s also cheaper than lube.)

Now; about the firm grip. Don’t just bob your head up and down, you need to actually suck. It is, so I’m told, a really intense sensation for him. Start off slow, taking as much of him in your mouth as you can, and then get faster, concentrating on the head of his penis.

  • Probably the best tip I can give you is to use your hand at the same time; it gives him a double whammy and will help stop you getting serious jaw ache. Put your hand around him, directly under your mouth so you’re creating one continuous tunnel, and move them in tandem. Remember to suck, and try swirling your tongue around the glans too. Once you’ve got this down, you can bring out your bag of tricks.
  • Keeping your hand and mouth together, twist your hand around the head of his penis, before you move back down. But remember it’s your hand that should twist, not his actual bits!
  • If he likes that, try lightly holding the base of his penis with your hand, and moving your mouth up and down in a twisting motion while swirling your tongue around his head and shaft. Start off slow, as this is the oral equivalent of patting your head while rubbing your tummy.
  • As a prelude to deeper sucking, and every so often to vary the sensation, take just the head of his cock into your mouth and suck vigorously, as if you were sucking on a mango. Most of the nerve endings in his penis are here, and this can send some men through the roof.
  • While he’s in your mouth, stiffen your tongue and flick it around his frenulum–the underside seam that joins the glans to the shaft.

Something else to bear in mind is the visual aspect. He will most likely love watching you, so tie your hair up if it’s long, and make eye contact now then. Even give him a cheeky wink or blow him a kiss–he should soon be going cross-eyed with delight!

Scarlett Ryan

Scarlett Ryan is a thirty-two year old former porn actress, having worked for Playboy TV, Red Hot TV and Television X, among others. She now writes erotica and, as she once stated in an interview, she aims to "turn the whole world on!" Her memoir, Sex in Stilettos: My Life in Porn is available from Peaches Press on Amazon. She also practices yoga, which keeps her sane.

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6 Responses

  1. Courtney

    The major issue is the constant gagging and the taste is well yuck….any suggestions.

  2. susan wells

    I have been giving my partner oral for some years and I find that if you use flavoured lube on his dick it will make the difference

  3. Robert

    This is so accurate. I can’t tell you how many women I would have given this artilce too. I’ve already copied it for the wonderful woman I’m with. Trust me, if they did it exactly (or even close to) as described, it’s going to save you from getting lockjaw, because it’ll be quicker and you’ll have him in the palm of your hand. He’ll do anything to get this kind of blow job. I’ve had one or two and would worship you; in and out of bed if I knew what was in store. Bravo!

  4. Hayley

    Very good technique especially with some flavored lube.. Lube is a must enhances the sensation so I’m told… I must say pre plan the end result if you don’t want a suprise.

  5. Brittney

    This is kinda embarrassing but the glands? Is that the, sorry to be so blunt, balls/ball sack?

    • Peaches

      The glans (no “d,” in case you want to Wikipedia it) is the head of the penis. No worries about bluntness!

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